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  1. #Oneborneveryminute
    When I was pregnant with my son, I already had 6 nieces and nephews; and the scary birth stories from my sisters. One of them had had intervention after struggling to push her second baby out, who then had to be resuscitated at birth. I decided I would prefer not to have an epidural, as I felt I would have more chance of a natural delivery without it. My mum’s description of how pethidine had made her feel scared me off that option so I thought I would just get by on gas and air if possible. I knew I had to keep an open mind though…

    During my pregnancy I attended special yoga classes where I improved my flexibility, practised good visualisation and breathing techniques and made some life-long friends. I would highly recommend this to an expectant mother. I certainly used what I had learnt in my classes while I was in labour.

    My first pains started around 8pm. I sat on my birthing ball and tried to prepare myself for much worse as my mum kept reminding me this increasing pain was “just the start”. I took some paracetamol and went to bed, but the pain and fear of what was to come stopped me from falling asleep. At about 1am I called the hospital and they asked me if my waters had broken. I wasn’t sure and with polyhydramnios in my notes, I was told to go straight to hospital, just in case. I went to wake my mum up, my birthing partner and driver, only to find that she had just taken sleeping pills! A shower and a lot of coffee later, we made the journey to the hospital, two suitcases in tow.

    I waited to be examined, trying to block out the sounds of screaming women and to breathe through the increasingly frequent contractions. The midwife told me that she couldn’t tell how dilated I was, but that either I had a high pain threshold or that this pain was “nothing yet”. So I was sent home just as the sun was rising and my drugged up mum went straight to bed to get some sleep for when I would need her later.

    I tried to get comfortable between my birthing ball and the sofa but I could barely move for the pain. I texted my sisters who told me to wake my mum, but I knew how much I would need her later. I dragged myself to the toilet at around 10am when my waters definitely broke: it came gushing out, despite being told that was only a myth! A midwife came to the house and on examining me found I was 8cm dilated! I was asked if I would mind a home-birth as we might not make it to the hospital in time…

    I laboured on my bed for what must have been an hour. I remember seeing the gas and air on the floor and asked “should I have some of that?” only to be told I was doing fine without it…The midwife finally read my notes and said I was not allowed a home-birth due to being high risk! An ambulance came and I remember being more concerned about the paramedics treading dirt through my house than my condition! That’s not to say I wasn’t in pain. It was agony and that bumpy 20 minute ride was the most painful journey of my life. I felt like I was desperately trying to hold the baby in against the feeling of wanting to push. Those last two centimetres took hours though and I wasn’t fully dilated until 4pm. Just before that time I remember feeling like I’d had enough. I asked my mum if I could get my coat and leave. I just wanted the pain to go, to be able to go home and have a glass of wine!

    All the time I was in pain I kept telling myself, every contraction is bringing my baby closer. Between them I tried to rest and recover my strength. During, I used the visualisation techniques my lovely yoga teacher had taught me to help me breathe through the excruciating pain. My mum was amazing, talking me through the images, helping to keep me calm, lovingly stroking my hair and giving me space when I needed it.

    When the time finally came to push I was kneeling on the bed holding onto the headrest. “What do I do?” I panicked, having no clue how to push. I gradually got the hang of it and put all my strength into it. Finally the contractions had a purpose. Two hours of pushing later, whilst standing and leaning against the bed, I gave birth to my 8lb14 son.

    I did not opt out of pain relief to be a martyr; I was actually too scared to use it! I felt I would have less control of the birth and be powerless with it. I associated it with horror stories and intervention. I didn’t ever make the final decision to not use it; I just took each contraction at a time and tried to turn all my fear into the energy that is needed to give birth. I hope to have more children and will try to consider each birth as unique and make the decision that is right for me at the time. Every woman should do that. No woman should feel pressured into giving birth in a way that is not right for her when the time comes.

    • Its is a very inspiring birth story. Yoga is a powerful practice which makes a person calm, focused and strong. Every contraction is a positive effort to bring baby in the arms. I am very pleased to note that yoga made lots of sense to you. Knowing power of yoga you might consider to know about Postnatal yoga as it puts everything back into its place after delivery.
      Love and blessings

  2. hollanda1 says:

    I had gas and air after 4 hours. I wish I hadn’t now, looking back…it made me very woolly-headed. My little son was born emergency C Section…:( I so wanted a natural birth! Oh well, maybe for number 2…! 😀 You did great, hun! xxx

  3. Noorun-Nisaa says:

    Good day mommies!!!I am not a mommy yet but I’m soon headed that way(God willingly).I’ve been told by many that giving birth is a painful procedure especially if it is natural birth.What has your experiences been like?I’d Love to hear from you!:-)

    • Sharron says:

      It hurts i wont lie to you,but don’t panic as it makes it worse. Tip for you try to walk regular when pregnant to exercise your inner thigh muscles they are the ones that help you push your baby out
      I had 3 children 1 in 20 mins lol and 1 in 17.5 hrs and the third was 58 hrs ,it was long exhausting but worth every pain..Would advise too walk about when in hospital as long as you possibly can hun AND USE AS LITTLE PAIN RELIEF APART FROM NORMAL STUFF AS POSSIBLE JUST SO YOU DONT FEEL CRAPPY AND WOOZY WHEN YOU MEET YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER
      and water births are FAB.

  4. says:

    well child birth happens and no matter how you plan, or what you expect to happen it usually goes its own way when it starts naturally. I’ve had four children and every labour was different, the only thing in common was i couldn’t tell when the labour started until it did, as i kept getting aches and pains in the weeks running up to it so i had a number of false starts sitting there with every one saying is it or isn’t it,(i now know they were obviosly Braxton Hicks) as you can tell i’m a bit of a drama queen. My first birth started with a bit of a show on monday morning and to be on the safe side my husband took me to his mothers to keep an eye on me-great! so i was stuck all day there. Every 20minutes or so i would get this period type pain with a bit of tooth ache in my back, the worst bit was being away from home and being in uncomfortable company. In the evening the hospital said to come in as the pains were 10mins apart, they examined me and said i would be better staying in, i woke at 3am with the pains coming every 5minutes the nurse gave me gas and air etc and i was floating. At 4am i just wanted to push, but, the nurse said i would tear as i wasn’t ready and was a long way off, as soon as she said that i froze i hate needles – something to do with all the tetanus injections and stitches i had as a child – i was aways getting bitten by dogs,or falling off bikes or out of trees. Anyway from that moment on every time I got a contraction i gripped the headboard with one hand and held my mask on with the other. At 5.15am the nurse came in and examined me again and said i was fully dilated and should have had it by now, as soon as i heard that i relaxed and with two more contractions, the baby pushed its way out, i think you reach a point when the pain is unbearable but it subsides quickly so you feel a bit of a fraud in between contractions making out you need more pain relief , and you think to yourself i’ll wait tillthe pain gets worse, then there is the baby, and then a very satisfying plop as the afterbirth follows it out.i remember holding the baby and being truly amazed,exhausted and exhilerated and the love coming out of my heart made me cry, plus the persistant need to pee i had had all through the pregnancy was gone- true bonus.
    i won’t bore you with details of the further births, just give you a outline of them, the scecond birth i waited till the last minute to go to hospital and got there two hours before the birth i again had gas and air etc and no stitches, my greatest worry with the second birth was how would i love it, my first child filled my heart how could there be room for another, but once there it was as if he never was not there, how could i have worried.
    With the third and fourth there wasn’t time for pain relief as even though i was in hospital they said my contractions weren’t strong enough to be any where near being ready to give birth, and when they realised i was, I was already in the final stage and they said it was too late to give me anything, i remember thinking i can’t give birth without gas and air the pain will kill me( i was nearly hysterical inside )but it didn’t and the birth was the best out of the three my mind was there i could feel my body’s responses and the eutopia i felt as my daughter was bornwas mind blowing i felt this rush through my body as though i had become superman, the same happened with baby number four but i panicked because the staff panicked as they again had misjudged the speed of which the baby was coming and tried to move me at the last momeent , i could feel the babies head between my legs as the trainee midwife stood me up, so she shouted for help as i tried to shift back up the bed, the frenzy round my bed caused my body to clamp up and the afterbirth was trapped everyone had a pull on the cord but it wouldn’t budge, i knew that if they would just give me time to calm down and relax it would be fine but while they were rushing around sticking drips and needles in me and talking about operating, it was makng me worse, eventually they resigned themselves to sending for the emergency team and taking me to another hospital, while waiting i relaxed and when the squad arrived they gave my cord a tug and out plopped the afterbirth so they got to claim the birth, by the way the baby was fine. Goodness isn’t it hard condensing stories, i wish i hadn’t started.

  5. Desperate mum says:

    My 16 month old daughter are in foster care since july 2012, due to various concerns by the LA inc concerns about previous excessive alcohol consumptio, i submitted a hair strand and liver test and they was all clear. Previous partners that been violent. Now they wondering wether i can establish a stable relationship, allthough the majority of my ex partners has been non violent and stable relationship.
    I have got the IRH hearing coming up and are due to meet with the guardian in the next couple of weeks. The guardians view is very important and the court usually do what the guardian says. Has anyone got any tips or experience of meeting the guardian? Do’s and dont’s. What did tge guardian recommend in your case?
    I am grateful for any help.
    I have done lots of therapy and groups etc since these proceedings started.

    le. Thirdly the LA are saying that i have focused to much on putting the father in a negative light during these proceedings. My solicitor are positive that i will get her back

    • Sharron says:

      The main focus is that you put your babies needs before eveything hun,i am a grand mother who has parental rights to her grand daughter.And when you are successful in getting her back if you are struggling ASK FOR HELP.

  6. Sambeth says:

    I had always intended as natural a birth as possible, but the first was not to plan. After 20 hours labour we discovered he was jammed in and trying to get out forehead first, so we went for an emergency C section (midwife told me that he could not have got out of a cow that way round, and he was too long to pull himself back in and change the position of his head). The second was much better. I had done a course in self hypnosis to try to erase the mindset that made me dread another long labour, and I insisted on going for a natural birth despite the doctors’ lovely term “trial of scar”. In four hours my daughter emerged 8lbs 10oz, with only a tens machine for pain distraction. Not bad for a 42 year old! I would certainly swear by hypnotherapy – it helped me face the experience in a disconnected pink haze …… where I zoned out enough to forget all the mechanics of a labour ward and just concentrate on me and the baby.

    • Hypnobirthing is a great way to stay calm and focused. You made perfect choice and did wonderful job, amazing you!!
      Hypnobirthing, visualisation, hypnobirthing breathing techniques, yoga movements and partners support all work together for most profound spiritual birthing experience. Where cervix opens up like petals of a flower. Most of this stuff could be learnt in Birthing Workshop and practiced in following yoga sessions.
      Yoga and hypnotherapy could be practiced for postnatal recovery too.
      Love and blessings

  7. danielle sanford says:

    I’m three weeks late and I’m scared i might b pregnant

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