Blog of the Week: ‘I wore a bikini…And I liked it’

Blog_of_the_week_badgeWhat a wonderful Blog of the Week we have to share with you this week!

It’s a celebration of women and women’s bodies by Kate from Wit Wit Woo, who admits that whilst her body may not be media perfect – she’s pretty happy with it anyway thank you very much.

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Kate Sutton

I can’t believe it was only a week ago that I was on holiday in Fuerteventura with Dexter – the week has flown by.  We had such a great time pretty much … not doing a great deal really.  We swam, I read a book AND an obligatory crappy woman’s magazine (although I also read Red which I thought was surprisingly great), we ate churros for breakfast, I drank Cava for breakfast every day, and we watched Lord of the Rings and X-Men every night back in our room after dinner.

It was our kinda perfect.

But remember before I went I wrote this post … ‘Should Big Girls Wear Bikinis?‘  It was, of course, a rhetorical question following a discussion I’d had online with my Twitter followers and the general consensus was that out of the plus size women I spoke to, it was a 50/50 split with who would feel comfortable enough wearing a bikini and who hated the thought.  However, interestingly, it soon became apparent that size wasn’t the driver for whether a woman would wear a bikini or not … women of all sizes had something to say.  (Have a read of the post.)

I have always said I’m comfortable in my own skin and I think sometimes people find that hard to believe as I’m a bigger woman.  But confidence isn’t something everyone has and it breaks my heart to hear women (whatever size) feel like they can’t wear this or they shouldn’t wear that.  Of course, everyone should wear what they want to wear but I totally understand that feeling of not wanting to be judged because no matter how big my … bravado, I’ve been hurt in the past my people’s comments – it’s horrible.

Anyway, I said I would be wearing a bikini on holiday, and so I did!

Kate Sutton

I’m no model (clearly), I’ve given birth to two 9lbs+ babies … my body has gone through a lot, but I think I look great!  I’m my biggest fan, pardon the pun, because quite frankly, I believe you truly have to be – no other bugger will think you’re great if you don’t!  Yes, I’m overweight and far from toned but honestly, hand on heart, IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT I LOOK LIKE!!  I wanted to wear a bikini so … I wore one!  It’s really that simple.  I didn’t give it much thought.  I didn’t think about what other people thought and although I didn’t notice any overt pointing or whispering, I doubt anyone even noticed or, for that matter, gave a shit.  I’m just another woman wearing a bikini.

Because it’s hot. Because I like the feeling of wearing one.  Because I can.

In fact, I wore several! This one (below) didn’t hold me in as much as the polka dot one but it wasn’t indecent and again, who cares?

I PROMISE YOU …. PEOPLE JUST DON’T CARE!!

They’re on holiday enjoying time with their family … the fact that me, or anyone else, is wearing a bikini is just so insignificant, trust me.

Kate Sutton

I get that we’re so indoctrinated with the idea that we should look a certain way, that we should feel embarrassed or ashamed if we don’t conform – I totally get that because I’m bombarded too.  I just choose to stick a metaphorical two fingers up to the fat-shaming brigade and do what I WANT TO DO.  If that involves wearing a bikini when I’m a size 18, so be it.

I just happen to believe that imperfections make us who we are and that life would be incredibly dull if we all looked the same.

I love the fact that by me talking about this subject it has encouraged women to buy a bikini for the first time in a long time … women who wouldn’t have dreamt about wearing one before, and I hope that by sharing photos of me in a bikini it might, just might, encourage them to wear one too.

Wearing a bikini on holiday is one thing … sharing my photos on my blog and social media, a completely different thing.  It’s a little scary because as much as my friends are supportive and lovely I do realise I’m opening myself up to THE INTERNET ….  but if it makes one woman, whatever her size, think ‘if Kate can wear one, then so can I’ then it’s worth it.

It may seem trivial … me talking about bikinis, it may seem like such a small thing but body confidence permeates how you live your life and if you can overcome a small thing like this, I honestly believe you’ll start to carry yourself differently and begin to feel good about yourself.

Wear a bikini.  Don’t wear one.  Do what YOU feel comfortable doing … but please PLEASE don’t let anyone make you feel shit about your choice.

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So what do you think? Are you supportive of Kate and her courage to not be defined by what people might think? Or do you believe that ‘big girls’ shouldn’t wear bikinis at all?

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14 Responses to Blog of the Week: ‘I wore a bikini…And I liked it’

  1. I think you have a right to wear whatever you want to and people have a right to think whatever they want to, despite their shallowness, but good for you Kate. You look great because you are great and you feel great – you own it! XX

  2. The Pie Patch says:

    Great post! Totally agree with your message. What ultimately matters is that you take care of yourself. “Care”. That means being kind to yourself. Physically & mentally. And if you want to wear a bikini there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t feel utterly fabulous doing so.

  3. Penny says:

    I think you look great very curvy, bikini lovely really suits you and your shape.
    You have inspired me and made me think, I have been stressing over the idea of wearing a bikini this year as my body is more wobbly size 14 than toned 12 (as I used to be pre babies) but when I look in the mirror it is far from perfect but it is also not that bad either. I am trying to focus on the positives of my body, the fact that it works mostly, it gave me my 3 beautiful babies, my husband adores it! and its the only one I have. I am going to be brave and wear the bikini and take a photo and post it somewhere just to prove to myself that it is not the end of the world, no one cares but me.

  4. Charlotte says:

    I think you look fab, love the polka dot bikini!

  5. Graham says:

    Hi, whilst searching for van hire recommendations? Yes, a crazy route via Net Mums (they know best for VFM deals!) I found your blog link … So, in true hot blooded male style, I clicked away …

    Fabulous. You’ve put a big smile on my face, but Sshhhh, don’t let my better half know. 😉

  6. Nicola says:

    Completely agree! We all get told by the media that we need to go on ‘bikini diets’ and look great on the beach…In my experience as soon as you hit the beach you realise nobody cares what you look like! You are far too busy enjoying yourself and tucking into ice creams to care! By the way – you look fab anyway! I’m 7 months pregnant with twins and currently enormous – I hit the beach in my bikini last week, Loved it! x

  7. englishmum says:

    I think it’s a lovely reflection on the kind of people that NetMums are that all these comments are so supportive. Fair play, NetMums! PS Kate, I think you’re gorgeous x

  8. sylvie says:

    Brilliant. You look lush! where is that polka dot bikini from? X

  9. cpc2012 says:

    Good for you – well done. We spend so much time worrying how other people think we look, we forget how we want to look.

    Jill
    Christmas Pie Crafts

  10. I LOVE this…you look amazing because confidence shines out of you, it matters not what we wear but how we feel, when people see you that is what they notice. In the first picture the most noticeable thing is how happy you look…great post x

  11. Lauren says:

    Reading your blog has helped me to be a bit comfortable and accepting of my post baby body (bit of a shock!) however, this year I won’t be wearing a bikini when we take our 8wk old swimming, it’ll be the one piece I bought. This is purely a confidence thing for me. When I think of my body before our son I think I wasted it not being naked more often ;). When I get a bit upset about my flabby bits I tell myself to cut myself some slack, yes I have a tummy to looks more like a road map thanks to the stretch marks, it’s saggy and I now have a lip thanks to the section but you know what I had him 8wks ago and apart from spending 3 days in neo natal we have a very happy and healthy son that’s really all that matters. You look amazing because your confidence shines through and for that it doesn’t matter what size you are, it shouldn’t matter full stop x

  12. cosbaby says:

    Fabulous. You’ve put a big smile on my face, but Sshhhh, don’t let my better half know.

  13. Dave says:

    I encouraged my wife to wear one after four children and I thought she looked great and so do you if you don’t mind me saying so well done you!

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