Blog of the Week: 7 Ways of Dealing With Not Being the Favorite Parent

Blog_of_the_week_badgeEver had to handle being the lesser loved parent?

It happens to us all at some stage so why not prepare yourself with this handy tongue-in-cheek guide from Coolkidzcooltrips? It’s our Blog of the Week this week – enjoy!


dad is the best

I thought that by being pregnant with my daughters for more than nine months, enduring hours of labor, using my own body to nurture them for over a year and basically being at their back and call for almost five years, would ensure me the well-deserved title of the favorite parent. After all of the above, wasn’t I entitled to it? Otherwise what do I get for a job well done? Stretch marks, a hanging belly, sleep deprivation that probably left permanent damage by now and no time for me.

But apparently as soon as my milk dried out, so did my kids’ unconditional adoration of their Mommy. As hard as it was to hear the words: “Not you. I love Daddy more.” for the first time, I have since learned seven different ways of dealing with it:


1)      Relief. Thank God, it has finally happened. Does this mean I get my life back? Sure, here you go Daddy, have fun. Mommy will be in the other room, drinking Champagne.

2)      Disbelief. Shit. I don’t believe this. When did that happen? Just yesterday you were professing undying love to me, now you’re picking your Dad. What did I do? Perhaps you need to lie down, and we can try this again another time.

 3)      Anger. What, how can you do that to me?! You, Daddy of the year, what did you say to her, that she’d ever pick you before me? It’s because you let her eat all the candy and give her pizza when she’s sick. Fine, wait till I tell her what you said when you first saw her.

4)      Laughter. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. Sure, baby, yeah, Daddy is the best…. Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha….

 5)      Rationalization. Yes, of course she prefers her Daddy now. It’s completely understandable at this stage. Experts say it only means that my daughter feels comfortable enough with me (kudos to Mommy then), to know she is loved and nothing is going to change should she occasionally choose her Father. Looks like Mommy can handle it, while Daddy would sulk.

 6)      Sulking. Yes. You too can choose the sulking method. Fine, you don’t want me, well frankly I am not too thrilled about you, sweetie. I’ll just go play with your sister, who really surpassed my expectations. 

 7)      Bribery. Look what Mommy has, yes something you want really badly, because who knows you better than Mommy, nobody right. Let’s just leave Daddy to his stuff and the two of us can play tea party, while watching Frozen dressed as princesses.   

So, there it is. Over time I have tried them all, to know none of them are perfect… In the end I love the fact that my kids have such an awesome Dad and an incredible role model.

Does your child have a ‘favourite’ parent? And if so how do you deal with it?

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3 Responses to Blog of the Week: 7 Ways of Dealing With Not Being the Favorite Parent

  1. I think I might use the sulking route. I have a son and I thought they were supposed to be tied to their Mums, at least until marriage. How do I deal with it, well now I laugh, and make sure we have time just the two of us. I find things I know he will love like singing in the car or making silly jokes, and they become our secret special times. Dad can have his special football times, but he cant take my fun days away! Mwhahah!!

  2. Hello there! This article couldn’t be written much better!
    Looking at this post reminds me of my previous roommate!
    He constantly kept talking about this. I will forward this post to
    him. Fairly certain he’ll have a very good
    read. Many thanks for sharing!

  3. I love this post! It’s so true. My little girl goes through phases with both so us and it’s horrible when she’s just all over one of us…..although quite nice when it’s me!

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