New mums – keep calm! – The New Mum’s Manual book giveaway

Babies don’t come with an instruction manual – but you can be sure there is a whole load of conflicting and confusing information for new mums on line, much of which is contradictory and guilt-inducing. Today’s guest blog is written by Dr Ellie Cannon, author of a new book Keep Calm, The New Mum’s Manual – Trust Your Instinct and Enjoy your Baby. She explains why she wrote her book for new mums. We also have 3 copies of her new book to giveaway. Simply leave a comment to enter our book giveaway.

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The whole reason for writing  Keep Calm: The New Mum’s Manual was the fact that every mums manualmum I have ever met, whether friend, relative, or patient, complained about the crazy, conflicting, confusing advice she was bombarded with as a new mum.  The sheer quantity of advice on offer when you become a parent  is now so  immense (and the majority of it is useless and unnecessary)  that it serves only to bewilder people and undermine  fabulous maternal instinct.

So my aim was to write a book that empowered women to  be confident, happy parents who trusted themselves more than any so-called expert. From my experience as a doctor and a mum, I know mums didn’t need a bible full of parenting laws: they need a best friend to spur them on and point out the two or three rules of parenting that are important. That’s what my book is about – teaching mums faith in their own ability and giving them permission to relax and focus on the fun.

There are about a thousand rules on parenting, and honestly most of them are utter drivel. Mums do need some guidance and help. But there seems to be far too many people dictating what parents should do. If you let yourself, you will be told how to cuddle your baby, what bib he should have and even when you’re allowed to go back to work. Time and time again with friends, and patients, I saw this driving new parents absolutely bananas. And weirdly, despite this vast swathes of advice, no one seems to learn the important stuff: so I would see mummies coming to me from antenatal classes well versed in placental delivery (not important), yet they don’t know how to tell if baby is dehydrated (very important). So Keep Calm aims to redress  the balance between the important guidelines and the unnecessary ones.

Guilt was another reason I wrote the book. Every mum I was seeing was feeling guilty about something: feeding, sleeping, working. Even whether or not they were having sex!  And I think this guilt stems from being told what to do all the time.  So I was seeing  countless fabulous women  who were great mothers,  but didn’t trust they were doing a good job and feeling guilty about getting something “wrong”. Parents seemed to be spending far too much time worrying about minutiae they’ve been bombarded with so I wanted to gently explain that there’s very little you need to know that won’t come naturally.

Of course it is very hard to build confidence as a parent, especially in the early days, and it’s because that’s exactly how I felt as a new mum that I wanted to allow others to take back that power so that they can spend days smiling, not feeling guilty for no reason.  I can honestly say I had absolutely no idea what I was doing when I first became a mother. I felt confused, exhausted and really lost a lot of confidence in what I was doing. When I started in general practice, a few years later, I could see that a huge number of mummies felt the same way (which certainly made me feel better!)  So I made it my mission to tell mums to trust their own instinct which is more useful than the advice of a thousand baby experts. Mums have relied on their instinct for thousands of years and  it has always worked.

The book is very simple: it is about instinct and confidence. I cover all the usual topics like feeding, and sleeping but without any dogma, so mums learn their own way by trusting their remarkable instinct. And most importantly, I want them to have a good laugh along the way.

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mums manualKeep Calm, The New Mum’s Manual – Trust Your Instinct and Enjoy your Baby by Dr Ellie Cannon is published by Vermilion, 10.99.

Win…win…win

We have three copies of Keep Calm, The New Mum’s Manual to give away. Simply leave a comment below to enter and from all comments received by midnight on 31st March we will pick three lucky winners. Usual Netmums terms and conditions apply.

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42 Responses to New mums – keep calm! – The New Mum’s Manual book giveaway

  1. Gaynor Skotny says:

    Would love to win a copy of the book. Very nervous about what to be doing with my upcoming arrival.,

  2. Sally says:

    Would love to read this new book and win a copy.

  3. Sarah Goddard says:

    Finally someone who appreciates how amazing mums are! There is a social lack of family support and this country doesn’t often embrace the value of motherhood and that we often do know best . That is often the only advice I pass on when asked for some!!! A wise mother also told me that and I am still grateful for her sense and her meals in the early days!!!!!!

  4. Suky says:

    Would love to win a copy, just to keep me sane!

  5. Michaela says:

    I am due in 5 days and would love to win a copy of this book!

  6. Lavanya Jayakkumar says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book and read it.

  7. Amrin Zafar says:

    A book that tells you to trust your instinct rather than making you feel like theres a thousand rules you must follow. Would love to read this.😆

  8. Victoria says:

    sounds just like what I need, would definitely like to win a copy!

  9. Tegan Greenway says:

    I hope being a mum will become second nature once I get into the rhythm of motherhood and that I feel like a mum, but it’s difficult for me to imagine right now. This book would give nice supportive advice when I need it.

  10. cat says:

    Sounds like a great book, a mother’s instincts are always right!

  11. Marie Rigler says:

    I’d like to win a copy of this book because I am at a point in motherhood with two children, 5 and 2 that I don’t think I have ever felt so stretched to my limits, stressed beyond belief and feeling like a failure. I am a very organised person and I spend most of my time feeling guilty about not being the perfect mother to my children….

  12. Harry's Mom says:

    I have been so confused about schedules and if I do things the “right” way, so guilt-free advice is more than welcome..

  13. lauretta smith says:

    I would love to win this and give it to my daughter who is expecting her first baby in September.

  14. Marion Hunt says:

    We are expecting our first grandchild in the summer and my daughter was only asking the other day about how you know how to be a good Mum and had starting looking for a book to help her with the task. I have always believed you learn as you go along and that if you are attuned to your baby then instinct will kick in. There are so many pressures on new parents these days and I am anxious my daughter doesn’t lose the joy of being a Mum and the experience of building a relationship with her new baby by becoming too bogged down with all the so called expert advice. Your book sounds like the sort I would encourage her to read. Would love to win one as a surprise for her.

  15. Laura says:

    This book sounds great!

  16. This sounds really interesting. I would definitely like to read it.

  17. kim plant says:

    oh yes please x

  18. I’m mum to shay whos 3, four in august and Riley-james whos 2 in april… my house is very hetic and in desperate need of some calm 🙂 I would love to win a copy of keep calm…. pleeeease.

  19. Nuz Courtney says:

    I definitely need to learn how to keep calm.

  20. Yes please – need all the help I can get!

  21. Rebecca says:

    Gosh there is so much waffle out there re parenting, ive not long welcomed baby no2 into the world and im still constantly questioning whether im doing things ‘right’ and hearing so much conflicting advice. I know there is major merit in trusting your insticts, which i try to do as much as possible, bit the pull of ‘googling’ or reading yet another baby book which holds a specific opinion on how to do things i sometimes too much for me (with not greats elf confidence in my abilities) is too strong. Im such i waste far too much time on this kind of activity. I wiuld love to read this boom and let it be the LAST parenting book i read! 🙂

  22. Melanie says:

    So many tips and overwhelming working out what to listen to and what to ignore! This manual would really help!

  23. Patricia Klingl says:

    Yes! I would love to win a copy of this book!

  24. Clare Pritchard says:

    I agree, I found this tough when I had my baby and always had the impression that I was doing something wrong, or not doing something important! But my baby is eleven months and absolutely thriving!! New mums just need to trust their instincts!!

  25. Hedd says:

    Yes please, and i will be happy to leave a review on this book and try out the tequniques and write about my findings. Fingers crossed. Thanks!

  26. This book sounds brilliant as a New Mummy I’m always worrying if I’m doing a good job and with all the different advice available. Its difficult to know if what you are doing is right.

  27. Laura says:

    Can’t wait to read it, would love some hints and tips! X

  28. Jill Mann says:

    I’m an older first mum to be – need all the help I can get.

  29. Kelly White says:

    Would really like to win this and will enjoy reading it

  30. alex clarke says:

    id love to win this book, i have a 5 week old son so will come in handy 🙂

  31. Lynne Ronan says:

    As a soon to be first time grandparent, i can already see that my daughter is overwhelmed by all the advice thrown at her, I want her to be a happy healthy mum who enjoys her time with her baby, this book may allay some of the fears she has so would love to win a copy for her

  32. Anna Squires says:

    Would love to have a copy of this! You can never have too much advice and help x

  33. Josie says:

    Yes please ! New mum to 3 month old little boy as much advice as possible the better ! X

  34. Macayla says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book! I fear I made need all the help I can get. Expecting identical twin girls. x

  35. Kath Taylor says:

    Sounds familiar! You sometimes feel that you can’t do anything right!

  36. vanessa says:

    I would be very happy to to win a copy of this book as it would be the perfect present to give my cousin and his wife who’s very recently had their first baby!

  37. vanessa says:

    Would love one!

  38. Joanne stennett says:

    Baby no 2 arrives in 11 days, a 12 yr age gap. I qualified as a nursery nurse 14 yrs ago. Everyone thought id be the best mum, after all i had read all the text books, right? WRONG!,,,,, I suffered PND, and felt awful..
    I believe this lady has hit the nail on the head. Trust you, yourself. Thats going to be my approach to parenting second time around. Sounds like a great book I would love to read…. Thankyou for sharing confidence to us mums who get frazzled by all the hype thats out there nowadays… Best wishes

  39. Alice Liley says:

    Would totally love to win a copy of this book! Crazy guilt ridden days are v familiar! x

  40. Fleur says:

    A book is the perfect source of information rather than asking different peoples varying views and getting confused would love to win and pass onto my sister

  41. Alexandra Hurton says:

    This book would be so good for me! a young, sahm with not a lot of experience and this may juts help!

  42. Nicola Grindrod says:

    I agree, the pressure on mums to do as everyone says is amazing. My second child, a boy is totally different to my daughter. Both children have slept in their own rooms since birth, and the midwife put us down as high risk parents because of this! He will only sleep on his stomach. In the eyes of the health visitors etc I am a high risk mum!! All nonsense. Yet the pressure to make him sleep on his back was so high, anyway went with my instincts and he sleeps quite happily now.

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