Blog of the Week: What I have learnt from 18 years of parenting.

Blog_of_the_week_badgeOur Blog of the Week this week comes from Stressy Mummy who shares all the parenting lessons she has learnt over the past 18 years. We think you may be familiar with some of them!

Are there any other lessons that you have learned since becoming a parent?


Yes I know, I know, I don’t look young enough to have a child of eighteen (even though I feel about eighty myself most days) but I do.  Yesterday, the teenager officially became a man, which is a very scary thought indeed. So rather than an emotional post about how I feel about being a mother of an eighteen year old and what an emotional roller coaster it has been, I thought I would share what I have learnt from these eighteen years of parenting.

It’s bloody expensive.  No great surprise I’m sure, but seriously, you think it is expensive when they are little and then they go and get bigger and wiser and suddenly they want big brand names and won’t settle for any old rubbish anymore. They need money to go out, they need money for stuff, then they go and get cars and things and you might as well connect your bank account straight to the local drain system and cut out the middle man.  I have no doubt that there is an average amount of money that people spend in the lifetime of a child, I really don’t even want to think about it as having four, it might give me heart failure.

I’m never right and I don’t know anything.  Now I don’t claim to always be right and I certainly don’t claim to know everything either, however I do like to think that I have picked up a small amount of wisdom and a fair amount of life experience, but no apparently not.  Me smart arsed teenager knows everything and can be told nothing.  I am really looking forward to that day in years to come when he turns round and says ‘do you know mum you were right about that!’  I may be waiting for a long time but I will be suitably smug if and when it does.

A whole new language – teenish.  From a range of grunts, mumbles and moans, I can

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usually decipher  enough to be able to understand the teenagers needs and sometimes we even manage a conversation if I’m really lucky.  I could even get a job as a teen translator as I often have to convey the teen’s utterances to other people.

Those dirty underpants that are sitting on the teen’s bedroom floor will not move if you don’t move them.  They will not be picked up, they will not walk to the wash basket by themselves and in fact if you leave them there long enough and you are really lucky, they may even reproduce and you will have a whole family of dirty underpants to look forward to.

That one single person is capable of using a whole tank of hot water in one go.  In the early days it was to have the fullest and hottest bath imaginable, followed by never-ending showers.  So no problem with body odour I suppose, which can only be a good thing, but no chance of anyone else getting a hot shower that’s for sure.

That all that bum wiping and clearing up sick when they are babies is in fact preparing you for the teen years, when they discover alcohol.  Enough said I think on that one.

That you don’t ever stop worrying about them, even when they are big enough and ugly enough to look after themselves.  Adding cars, girlfriends, A levels, jobs and hormones into the mix does not make life easy for a parent.  It really doesn’t.

They have to learn by their own mistakes.  You can guide them, nag them, cajole them, educate them and push them, but ultimately they will follow their own path and the best thing you can do so be there and support them and encourage them to be the best that they can be. Hopefully, they will find their own way in the end.

However hard you try, you can’t slow down time and the years really do fly by. Before you know it, they are taller than you and although there are still the odd cuddles, they aren’t your babies anymore. They have become amazing, independent adults before your very eyes and you should pat yourself on the back for being a part of that and doing a good job. Being a parent really is the most amazing job in the world and every moment should be savoured and enjoyed as blink and you miss those early years and you never get them back.


What lessons have you learnt about parenting?

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8 Responses to Blog of the Week: What I have learnt from 18 years of parenting.

  1. I love this, what a great post – Thank you for sharing!

  2. SLCleaver says:

    Although my daughter is only 4 years old, I have awhile to wait untill her teenage years, but suppose time does go exremely fast. I can’t believe she is 4 already. I do cherish every moment I do have with her while she’s young & cuddly, although I did believe as they get older things get better, untill reading this post & it taking me back to my own teenage years. Lmao x

  3. jo says:

    yeah time does go by before you know it they have grown up and become grown two sons have.we also have a a little girl whos two and a bit.we are going to be grandparents december.our daughter will be an has a beginning and also an adventure along the way.xx

  4. I’ll be entering teenhood with my son, who is the oldest of 3 kids in a couple of years and I know it’s going to be tough but also exciting at the same time.

  5. Kirsty Fallis says:

    I have it all ahead of me, great comments!!!

  6. sian says:

    my little man isnt 1 yet but the last part makes me a little sad that he wont always be little and he’ll grow up. And although ill have new things to look forward too, ill miss all the things i get now

  7. L wood says:

    patience patience and patience with teenage boys, had a good old laugh when reading through this, soooo true!!! At least I am not alone!!!

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