Sleep deprived Mum

When Netmums launched the Real Parenting Revolution at the start of the year there was an almost audible sigh of relief from mums across the UK, as the pressure to be perfect was lifted from our shoulders and we could all finally admit that we were doing our best to be ‘good enough’ parents.  Today’s guest Blog is from Laura Westwood who recently commissioned the book ‘Diary of a Sleep Deprived Mum’ and who writes about her own experiences trying to get it right as a mum and being a ‘real parent’

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I recently went to see the film “I don’t know how she does that”, showing Sarah Jessica Parker as a frazzled working mum.  When someone asked her husband what she did, he replied “she’s a juggler”.  As someone who attempts to balance running a successful business with my husband, maintaining my career in social care and being a good mum (against a backdrop of very little sleep), I appreciated the description.  Although ball dropper may be a more appropriate description for me at the moment!

Today was a good example of my struggle.  Today was a beautiful autumnal day and the plan was for no work, just a serene blissful day with my 2-year old.  It started with my, now daily, battle to get Morley dressed.  He has taken an intense dislike to any clothes that are not the ones he went to bed in the previous night.  There is a character in the book “Diary of a Sleep Deprived Mum”, whose daughter is always inappropriately dressed.  I am determined not to be that mum.

Once dressed, we managed to get my daughter Ella to school on time and then my friend and I decided to get a much needed coffee before heading to the local toddler group.  This led to a stand up confrontation with a woman in the coffee shop who was annoyed that our boys were “wrecking this café”.  I was indignant and ungracious, focused on my pursuit of coffee.  Although, with hindsight I now see that allowing the boys to swordfight with the cone shaped menus may have been a little disruptive.

We carried on to Toddlers, stopping every few minutes to peel an orange, find a better stick, fish in a puddle and climb in and out of the pushchair, only to arrive at Toddlers half an hour late and find the dreaded sign “Toddlers is now full”.  I was filled with every parent’s familiar feeling: guilt.  If I hadn’t been so desperate for coffee maybe we would have been on time and Morley wouldn’t have missed out on his favorite group.

Home again and two chocolate biscuits (each) later, all is calm.  I look at my little boy with his big brown eyes and his shaking excited grin and know that however much I feel the balls are falling from the air, he is blissfully happy.  Being a real parent will always be about juggling in some way but I don’t think the children really notice.

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Laura Westwood recently commissioned the book “Diary of a Sleep Deprived Mum”  (http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Diary-of-a-Sleep-Deprived-Mum/253272058038044 ) and appears as the character “Mumpreneur”, in the book.

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1 Response to Sleep deprived Mum

  1. Helly says:

    I think that is awful that toddler group would put up a board saying full! I have never heard of that and often the toddler groups i went are in huge room/hall, with plenty of rooms. If this is regular occurance for this group, they should consider moving to bigger room or a hall. As i am sure there was a few mum who desperately needed to go to the group, ask for advice etc but couldn’t come in!

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